kids

today, i was again asked the question that i think will follow me for the rest of my life: when are you and your husband going to have kids?

why do people think that a married couple can't be happy without children? i don't want kids. my husband doesn't want kids. what's wrong with that? we both know that we are too selfish to be willing to make the enormous sacrifices children require. don't get me wrong--i love my nieces and nephew. i enjoy spending time with them. but i like the part where i send them home with their parents. at this point, i'm usually told: but it's different with your own kids. that might be true but i think this is one of those important things where i shouldn't take a chance. i do not want children and i'm not a bad person because of it. i'm grateful to and amazed by those people who do have children. (i honestly don't know how you have the strength, energy, and courage to do it.) i just do not want to be one of them. why is that so impossible for people to understand?